Sumber Penyakit Jiwa

Untuk kesejukan hati, maka jauhilah sifat-sifat ini
1. Angkuh, mau menang sendiri
2. Bakhil , kikir
3. Bodoh, bebal
4. Buruk sangka, su’udz dzon
5. Congkak, angkuh
6. Degil, tambeng, tidak menuruti nasehat orang.
7. Enggan memaafkan
8. Gemar mencela
9. Gemar mengumpat
10. Gemar mengumpulkan harta
11. Gemar mengungkit
12. Gila jabatan
13. Ingkar janji
14. Kecut hati
15. Keras kepala
16. Lekas putus asa
17. Licik
18. Merasa besar diri
19. Pemalas
20. Pemarah
21. Pendurhaka
22. Pendusta, penipu,
23. Rendah diri
24. Riya, beramal ingin dipuji
25. Pamrih, membantu dengan maksud
26. Sangat cinta harta
27. Selalu putus asa
28. Sombong, merasa besar diri
29. Suka berlaga
30. Suka dipuji
31. Suka dzalim
32. Suka membangkang dan membantah
33. Suka menggunjing
34. Suka menjilat
35. Takut mati
36. Tamak, serakah
37. Terburu nafsu
38. Tidak kenal jasa orang lain
39. Tidak sabar
40. Tidak tahu malu

Learning How to be Reconciled to Disagree

I deliberately chose to discuss the topic of "reconciliation" rather than the topic of "compromise", since I do not want to speak about a process of mitigating disagreement. There are cases – both in religious matters and worldly affairs – where the continued existence of disagreement is unavoidable, or even something healthy and essential.

In a number of situations, if disagreements did not exist, people would lose out on a lot of things that are good and beneficial. Allah, in His wisdom, gave us our various languages, colors, and so many other differences.

Reconciliation means to capitalize on our differences in a positive way instead of allowing those differences to develop into disputes and conflicts. It means to unite the people's hearts rather than their minds.

Reconciliation has a moral impetus and a comprehensive outlook. It is not limited to simply increasing the knowledge of the people who disagree. There are many issues where differences of opinions, attitudes, interests, and outlook are not removed simply by knowing the "facts" or understanding other people's points of view. However, the various conclusions that we reach should not harden our hearts towards one another.

Reconciliation means to put greater focus on the areas wherein we agree and to cooperate in humanitarian efforts wherein we all share an interest. There are enormous opportunities for positive engagement with others in such matters. The same thing can be said within the religious sphere.

These cooperative efforts are entitled to warrant our time and attention. The Qur'ân and Sunnah call us to conduct ourselves in this way. Past experience – both good and bad – show that working with others in a spirit of goodwill and reconciliation is for the best. It sows that we should work together on the basis of share principles, common beliefs, and the public good.

We should not forget our differences, whether they be substantial or minor, however we should not be so sensitive to these differences that they dominate our thoughts and dictate our affections. We need to strengthen our relationships with each other so that our differences will not cause those relationships to fall victim to dissention, scheming, and falseness.

Life is not a battle. Reconciliation means to disagree politely and to agree with commitment. It is a moral stance and an informed one. It is what distinguishes between the legitimate rights of the intellect and the deceptive passions of the ego.

Reconciliation is a victory in the perennial conflict – the conflict each of us must wage with our own base desires and ulterior motives which sometimes masquerade themselves in the guise of "noble commitment" or "faith" so their true natures are hard to discern.

Allah says: "Indeed, the human being transgresses all bounds, in that he sees himself as self-sufficient." [Sûrah al-`Alaq: 6-7]

Glory be to Allah who knows the intricacies, compulsions, ad subtleties of human nature: "(Allah) knows of (the tricks) that deceive with the eyes, and all that the hearts conceal." [Sûrah Ghâfir: 19]

Purity of heart is essential to start with. Then reconciliation with others requires us to be humble before our Lord, to honor the rights of others, and a willingness to pardon offense even when the offence is directed against you.

We must keep in mind that words are easier than deeds, and if we are to make progress as individuals, communities, societies, and nations, we need to raise ourselves above petty self interest and strive for honesty and integrity in all of our efforts.

We all should invoke the following supplication from the Qur'ân: "Our Lord! Forgive us, and our brethren who came before us into the faith, and leave not, in our hearts, rancor (or sense of injury) against those who have believed. Our Lord! You are indeed full of kindness, most merciful." [Sûrah al-Hashr: 104]
Sheikh Salman al-Oadah


Untuk kesejukan hati, maka milikilah sifat-sifat ini
1. Adil
2. Amanah
3. Baik budi
4. Banyak berterima kasih
5. Banyak memuji Allah
6. Banyak menolong
7. Benci karena Allah
8. Berani
9. Berkemauan keras
10. Berkorban karena Allah
11. Berzikir memikirkan asma Allah
12. Cinta karena Allah
13. Fathonah
14. Harap dan takut
15. Ikhlas hati
16. Ingat mati
17. Istiqomah
18. Jujur
19. Kasih karena Allah
20. Lemah lembut
21. Menerima kenyataan hidup
22. Mengendalikan nafsu
23. Menghindari dosa-dosa
24. Menjaga kesucian
25. Menyantuni fakir, miskin dan yatim
26. Murah hati
27. Optimis bekerja
28. Pantang putus asa
29. Sabar atas ujian hidup
30. Senantiasa berbaik sangka
31. Senantiasa bersuci
32. Siap menghadapi ujian hidup
33. Sidiq
34. Suka memaafkan
35. Syukur atas nikmat Allah
36. Tabligh
37. Takut karena Allah
38. Taubat
39. Tawakkal
40. Qonaah